You’re Not Asking for Too Much, You’re Just Asking the Wrong Person

Let’s be real—how many times have you heard “you’re too much”, “you expect too much”, or my personal favorite: “you’re being dramatic”? Babe, no. You’re not extra. You’re not difficult. You’re just asking the wrong person to meet you where you deserve to be met.

I used to think I was high-maintenance just because I wanted basic relationship decency—good communication, effort, and a little emotional availability (shocking, I know). I’d sit there convincing myself, maybe I should chill, maybe I should lower my expectations, but guess what? The second I stopped asking the wrong person and started demanding better, everything changed.

The Problem Isn’t You, It’s the Bare Minimum Olympics

So many of us have been conditioned to accept crumbs and call it a full-course meal. If a guy texts back within a reasonable timeframe, we’re out here like “OMG, he’s different”—NO, BESTIE. That is the bare minimum.

Meanwhile, we’re out here giving full-girlfriend privileges to people who wouldn’t even drive 10 minutes to see us. The real question isn’t “Am I asking for too much?” It’s “Why am I settling for so little?”

The Right Person Won’t Make You Feel Like You’re Too Much

Here’s the truth: The right person will never make you feel guilty for wanting love, effort, and commitment. You won’t have to send six follow-up texts just to get a straight answer. You won’t feel like you’re constantly begging for the basics.

The right person? They’ll show up without you asking. They’ll communicate without disappearing. They’ll make you feel secure, not confused.

Stop Negotiating Your Worth

If someone makes you feel like you’re asking for too much, that’s your sign to ask someone else. Because your standards aren’t too high—their effort is just too low.

So no, you don’t need to dim your light to make someone else comfortable. You don’t need to shrink yourself just to be more “palatable.” Love should feel safe, exciting, and reciprocated—not like a never-ending battle to be chosen.

Final Thoughts: Know Your Worth, Then Add Tax

If they can’t handle you at your ‘I need consistency and effort’, they don’t deserve you at your ‘soft girl, ride-or-die, fully devoted’. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just finally realizing you deserve more.

Now go ahead, text back “nvm” and block him. You’re welcome. 💅