Gen Z Dating: A Survival Guide for the Chronically Confused

Look, as a certified Gen Zer, I can confidently say that dating in our generation is a whole mess. Like, why is it so complicated?? Oh wait, I know—because the internet exists, and the dating scene is basically a dumpster fire half the time.

And when I say dumpster fire, I mean full of toxicity, ghosting, and situationships that make absolutely no sense. But don’t worry, bestie—if you’re stuck in a talking stage that’s been going on for way too long, a situationship that’s giving emotional whiplash, or a relationship where you have no clue what’s actually happening…I got you.

Here’s your no-BS, totally unhinged Gen Z dating survival guide—because let’s be real, we all need a little help navigating this chaos.

1. Stop Playing Games

The talking stage should NOT feel like a chess match where you’re calculating every move. If you like them, text back. If they’re being dry, move on. Ain’t nobody got time for mind games in this economy.

2. Know the Difference Between a Soft Launch and Being a Secret

A cute, lowkey Insta story of their hand? Soft launch. They’ve hidden your entire existence like you’re in the witness protection program? If they won’t acknowledge you in public (or online), that’s not a “private relationship,” that’s just shady.

3. Communication > Mind-Reading

Subtweeting is not communication. Neither is dropping vague hints and hoping they “just get it.” Be upfront about what you want. If they can’t handle a simple conversation, they’re not ready for a relationship—they need therapy.

4. Green Flags Are Just As Important as Red Flags

We’re so used to spotting that we forget to look for the good stuff. Do they actually listen when you talk? Do they support your goals? Do they send good morning texts unprovoked? If yes, lock them down (or at least give them a chance).

5. Don’t Settle for Bare Minimum Energy

“Hey” every 24 hours is not effort. If you’re carrying the conversation, planning every date, and doing all the emotional labor, you’re not in a relationship—you’re a customer service rep. Demand more.

6. Ghosting Is Cowardly—Just Be Honest

Look, sometimes things don’t work out, and that’s okay. But if you’ve been talking for weeks and you dip without a word, that’s just rude. A simple “Hey, I don’t think this is working” is way better than leaving them wondering if you got abducted by aliens.

7. If They Wanted To, They Would

No one is that busy. If they really like you, they’ll make time. If they keep hitting you with “I’ve just been soooo busy,” what they mean is “You’re not a priority.” Act accordingly.

8. Date With Purpose (Even If It’s Just for Fun)

Whether you’re looking for a life partner or just a fun summer fling, be intentional. Know what you want, be honest about it, and don’t waste time on people who aren’t on the same page.

9. Self-Love First, Always

You are not incomplete without a partner. You are the main character, and anyone who comes into your life should be adding to your storyline, not making it worse.

10. At the End of the Day, Dating Should Be Fun

If you’re constantly stressed, overthinking, and analyzing texts like it’s an FBI case, something’s off. Love should make your life better, not more complicated.