You Deserve More Than a Situationship

Alright, bestie, let’s get real. If you’re out here decoding dry “wyd” texts like it’s the Da Vinci Code, hoping your situationship will magically turn into a relationship, it’s time for a wake-up call. You deserve clarity, not emotional gymnastics. If you’re done with the guessing game, here’s how to get the answers you need—without the awkward “what are we?” convo that no one actually enjoys.

Step One: Spot the 🚩s of Relationship Limbo

If your situationship is starting to feel like a never-ending soft launch, it’s time for a reality check. Here’s how you know you’re stuck in the waiting game:

They dodge the “DTR” (Define the Relationship) convo like it’s the plague.
One day they’re all over you, the next they’re ghosting, bestie.
You hesitate to ask where things stand because you already know the answer.
You’re giving 110%, and they’re just… existing.
They vanish for days, then hit you with a lazy “sorry, been busy” after you spilled your soul.
They breadcrumb you—just enough attention to keep you hooked, but not enough to actually commit.

If this sounds familiar, it’s time to stop waiting for them to wake up and start putting yourself first.

Step Two: Stop Romanticizing the Potential

We’ve all been there. The dates? Fire. The chemistry? Off the charts. You swear they get you like no one else. But then… they disappear for a week, and when they finally text back, it’s “nm u?”

Listen, if they wanted to, they would. It doesn’t matter how good the vibes were—if they’re flaky now, they’re showing you how much effort they’re actually willing to give. Believe them.

And PSA: If you have to fill in the blanks or convince yourself they’ll “change,” you’re not in a relationship—you’re in a delusion. And you deserve real effort, not just vibes and wishful thinking.

Step Three: Ask the Right Questions (Without Making It Weird)

The dreaded “what are we?” convo doesn’t have to feel like an interrogation. Try these instead:

The Playful Route: “So, if someone asked me what we are, what would you want me to say?”
The Direct Route: “I really like where this is going—just wanna make sure we’re on the same page. What do you think?”
The Chill Route: “No pressure, but I just wanna know where we stand. What are you looking for?”

These keep things open-ended and low-key. And let’s be real—if asking for clarity makes them panic, that’s your answer.

Step Four: Know Your Worth & Be Ready to Walk

If they can’t give you a straight answer, that is your answer. You should never have to beg for clarity. Someone who genuinely wants you will make it obvious.

If they hit you with the classic “I’m not ready for anything serious” or “Let’s just go with the flow,” take that as your cue to flow right out of there. You’re not here for half-effort energy.

Also, if they only show up when they feel like it? That’s breadcrumbing, bestie. And you’re a full-course meal.

Step Five: Set Your Own Standards

It’s easy to get caught up in what could be, but let’s focus on reality. Ask yourself:

Does this person make my life better or just more stressful?
Am I actually happy, or am I hoping they’ll change?
Do they make me feel secure, or am I constantly second-guessing everything?
If my bestie was in this situation, what advice would I give them?

If they’re not meeting your standards, they’re not your person—period.

Step Six: Trust That Real Love Won’t Feel Like This

Love isn’t supposed to feel like an unsolvable puzzle. It should be fun, fulfilling, and make you feel secure—not anxious. The right person will make their intentions clear because they want you to know where you stand.

So, if you’re done with mixed signals and half-hearted effort, remember: You don’t need a maybe. You need someone who chooses you—loudly, clearly, and without hesitation. And trust me, that person is out there.

No more “what are we” convos—only mutual, intentional energy from here on out. You got this! 💖